What Have I Learned?

Nine months into the year, and I am reviewing top learnings from clients and myself. I go through this process as a check in and check up on progress made and to gauge end of year goals. I learned early on in my coaching practice the importance of asking the questions, “What are you learning, and what are you going to do with that learning?” This exercise allows my clients to reflect and state what they now know and adjust plans for change from that new place every single time. It is always interesting for me to hear about a client’s learning, because I never know for sure what it is going to be. Hearing the learning is like finding the prize at the bottom of a Cracker Jacks box; being excited about the truth that will be revealed.

While sharing some of these learnings, I also want to be clear that most of the learnings are not a result of some profound enlightened statement from the coach. Most of the “ahas” are from my client’s internal knowing that we were able to uncover together. I share this third quarter review with the hope that it may jog a memory of what you already know so you can: let go of old and outdated thinking, maybe create a new habit that reveals your best self, move through an internal block, be encouraged by what you already know and perhaps learn from others which is always a bonus.

Top 9 Third Quarter Now & Next Client Learnings

  1. Dr. Suess was right. “Why fit in when you were born to stand out.” If I am going to succeed, I will be with me being me and that is a good thing.
  2. I will stop trusting my head and begin to trust my heart. My heart is where my confidence, commitment and passion are and the truth.
  3. It’s easy to get off track. The important thing is to know the signs that I am off and get back on. If I recognize when I am off and surround myself with people who will help me get back on track, I will be better at this.
  4. On putting out fires―know what you can control and what you can’t, be flexible, ask questions to determine the urgency and―no matter what―don’t jump in the fire, because you will get burned.
  5. We all have a purpose and a reason to be here. To discover that we can start by asking ourselves the question and look for the sign posts that lead to the deepest part of our hearts and passion and the answers.
  6. The adventure of entrepreneurship is learning that the value is not so much what we need to perfect in our business to succeed, but what we need to perfect in ourselves in order to succeed.
  7. Obstacles are a part of the recipe of success. Without failures there is no growth.
  8. I won’t let perfection stop me from succeeding. When I am 90% sure it is right, I take action. I have now perfected worrying; I think I’ll move on to something else now.
  9. I was embarrassed to ask our team what they thought and delighted that they had some really good ideas. It’s okay not to know everything and engage my team in my plan.

And one extra…

If I don’t change the things about me that I know are holding me back, something will inevitably force me to change. Me leading the change is a lot more empowering than being hit over the head in order to change.

And this coach’s greatest learning and reminder in the Third Quarter of this year…

Trust the process of asking questions to help others reveal their own truth and direction.